Bought the Casket, but not the clarity.
Let’s talk real.
Planning your final arrangements isn’t taboo—it’s responsible. But purchasing your own casket or urn without proper knowledge can be a costly, emotional, and sometimes irreversible mistake.
I see it happen too often: people walking into funeral homes or online shops thinking they’re taking control of their exit, but they’re doing it blind. They don’t know the materials, the laws, the hidden fees, or how their choices might burden their families later.
Let’s pull back the satin curtain and talk facts:
Not All Caskets Are Created Equal
That $5,000 casket might look luxurious online—but is it solid wood or wood veneer? Is it sealed or non-sealed? Does it meet the cemetery’s burial vault requirements? Many people buy based on appearance without understanding durability, environmental regulations, or what’s actually needed for burial.
Tip: Always ask for a l Price List from any provider be sure it breaks down every item and fee.
Urn Shopping is More Than Pretty Patterns
Urns aren’t just decorative—they serve specific purposes. Is the urn meant for burial, scattering, or display? Does it need to meet TSA guidelines for air travel? What’s the size in cubic inches? If the math is wrong, your loved one’s ashes may not even fit.
Tip: One pound of body weight equals roughly one cubic inch of ash. Plan accordingly.
You Might Be Double Paying
If you purchase a casket or urn ahead of time without coordinating with your chosen funeral home, you risk paying again—either in storage fees, or delivery issues.
Know Your Rights: Under the FTC Funeral Rule, funeral homes must accept caskets and urns purchased elsewhere. They can’t charge you a fee just for bringing your own.
You’re Planning Emotionally, Not Logically
Let’s be honest. Sometimes we choose the most extravagant option because we think it’s “what we deserve.” But extravagance doesn’t equal peace of mind. Your farewell should reflect your values, not your vulnerability.
Ask yourself: Am I choosing this to make a statement, or to lighten the load on my loved ones?
Planning your own homegoing isn’t morbid—it’s sacred. But don’t let luxury, fear, or misinformation lead your decisions. Do the research, ask the questions, and remember: legacy isn’t in the lining of the casket—it’s in the clarity you leave behind.
You deserve a farewell that honors you without burdening the people you love.
